Karyotype results

Incredibly, the full karyotype results from my CVS done a week ago Thursday came back this past Wednesday.  The results weren't due until next Tuesday!  All normal, yay!

So, we went ahead and started telling everyone - at 13 weeks - feeling kind of early to tell, but oh well.  First up - my sister and her husband.  Caught them in the car headed to soccer practice for their eldest.  Haven't had a chance to talk with my sister since, but since she was the donor of the egg we wanted to tell her before anybody else.  We've decided not to tell our parents and Mr.Right's sister about the egg being from my sister until later.  Preferably face to face - probably around Thanksgiving.

There are a couple of reasons for this.  Obviously, we wanted to explain to them in person what we did and offer them an opportunity to ask any questions in a more detailed way than you can do by phone.  Also, as I thought about it further, we didn't want to give our parents and my SIL something that they felt they had to 'hold back' when otherwise being excited to tell other people about our pregnancy.  E.g. I wanted my Mom to be able without reservation to tell her sister all about it (there's a little element of competition there - my Aunt is expecting her 6th grandchild in early February).

We don't intend to keep the fact that we used a donor egg secret forever, but we want to be the first people to tell our son about it.  For us, that necessitates keeping the circle of people who know before he's old enough to comprehend, quite small.  We think it's only fair.  So, as we discussed with my sister and BIL during our counseling sessions we intend to keep the knowledge to just my parents, Mr.Right's mother, his sister and brother-in-law and, possibly, my sister's in-laws.  At some point around the time when our son is able to understand, we'll probably tell my sister's boys as well.  They'll genetically be half-brothers.  Beyond that, it will be up to our son about whom he wants to tell.

I have no idea if this is the "right" thing to do, but this is how we've decided to handle it.  I know there are people who advocate talking about it from day one with the child and everyone around them.   Honestly, with the degree to which I quite often forget that we used a donor egg now (heck, I even forget half the time that I'm pregnant at all, e.g. I was totally getting excited on Wednesday night to go to one of my 'mom's night out' evenings and thinking about the couple of glasses of wine I'd be drinking......until I realized, oh yeah, I'm pregnant!) I imagine I may have a hard time remembering once babyboy is here that he's the product of a donor egg (except, of course, for those times when he's acting up and I can blame it on my sister!)

Anyhow, we're out there now.  I hope this pregnancy sticks around.  Feeling pretty great actually - trying not to gain any weight yet.  I just looked at my records from last pregnancy and I'm already 2 pounds heavier than I was at week 18 last time!  Of course I started this pregnancy 5-10 pounds heavier at conception.  A 3 mile woods trail walk every day with the dog and pushing E in the Bob stroller should help keep weight in check to some extent (if I can stop eating ice cream every afternoon!)