My sister called yesterday and the results of her breast biopsy are all clear! She has to go for a post-op appointment this Friday and they apparently want to do another mammogram at some point soon-ish because the surgeon wasn't able to get as many calcifications as they thought they saw on the initial images so I guess they just want to see if they still show up. Hopefully, none of this means further biopsies.
Along with telling me the news about the results, my sister wanted to let me know she'd be free this Friday for the follow-up consult Dr.Dry wants us to do before moving forward. I'm going to push for a phone consult since it's a long-ish drive for her over to our clinic (an hour+) and, honestly, I'm not thrilled about walking into my clinic with my 25-week belly. I know if I were sitting there waiting for my appointment I wouldn't really want to see a pregnant woman walking in. Anyhow, he's seen both of our faces before (and mine, way too many times) so I think a phone consult will suffice.
I still feel a little weird about doing this cycle while we have a (currently, and hopefully continuing) successful pregnancy of our own going on. But for most of the reasons we initially started down this path, I know it makes sense to continue: 1) get a first take-home baby (ok, it's looking more and more likely that we may accomplish this without my sister, but that wasn't the case in January or even April when we decided to start/continue on this path), 2) have a shot at a 2nd child (this is still highly unlikely with my own eggs since if I have this first baby, I'll be closing in on 42 by the time my body is ready to have a 2nd), 3) my sister is turning 37 this July so we don't have time to wait and see if we need her eggs a year or so from now, 4) given all this and the likelihood that we'll need donor eggs (if not now for #1, almost definitely for #2) this will give us a chance of using genetically-related eggs.
Ok, I know I've gone over and over this in previous postings, but I guess I just need to keep convincing myself that it's worth putting my sister through this. I know she's completely on board with it, but I really don't think she knows yet what it will really be like taking 4-6 injections everyday. Of course, maybe the emotional toll will be somewhat less for her because, despite the hormones, it won't be like she's desperately trying to get pregnant herself (which was always the state I was in) and she knows we're only asking her to do this once (where, at least until our last declared cycle, I never knew when it was going to end.)
I'm am exceedingly grateful that my sister is still willing to do this and also so grateful that her biopsy results were negative.
Otherwise, continuing to wade through the completely overwhelming task of registering for baby stuff. Trying to figure out how the heck to order the Dutailier glider I want with the finish and fabric I want. (I get a little obsessed with the details sometimes.....)
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All wonderful news!!! I like your thought process with continuing, it;s extremely well thought out and I think there's much to be said for your sister's level of stress hopefully being way below the IF average. I think you have some very valid points there.
ReplyDeleteOn a side note, I recently was exposed to informationr regarding mammograms and how they can actually cause cancer, and how thermography is much safer. I don't expect you to trust my judgement, but ask you to do some research on it, google Dr Mercola and Mammograms, some articles should come up. It seems it might be worth the read. xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
So glad your sister's biopsy was good news! You guys must be thrilled. I see a pattern of "justification" in your recent posts. Let me tell you, you do not need to convince us (or anyone else) that you are doing what is right for your family. I, personally, am so excited that you were able to achieve a pregnancy on your own and still have the option for a sibling with your sister's help. It's obvious that she is very willing to help you and that she may be your only chance at a sibling for the baby you are carrying. None of us judge you, at least I'm pretty sure no one else does, for going ahead with this cycle. I think it's wonderful that you not only have a sister that is able to help you this way but that you are also pregnant with what is a miracle baby (I don't want to jinx anything but I think you are in the clear now). So you don't have to keep justifying your plan. Just go with it...and enjoy it...and be there for your sister because like you said, she's not really clear on what she is getting into. She's not going to stress about getting pregnant but I'm sure she will have her own stress of wanting to do a good job for you. You are sisters and this will definitely be a bonding experience for you. Ok, I've blabbed enough. :-) Congrats again on the good test results!
ReplyDeleteYeah, I think it would be pretty weird to be in the Re waiting room, all 25 weeks looking. I hope they are ok with the phone consult.
ReplyDeleteBrilliant news all around! And yes of course the fact that your sister will put herself through a cycle has its burden but I'd do it too for my sister. Thinking of it, it's only gong to be 2 weeks max of injections, no therapy for the 2ww, do you know already what protocol she'll be doing? Love, Fran
ReplyDeleteWhat wonderful news! I'm so happy that your sister's breast biopsy turned out fine - that has to be such a relief for your whole family. And I think it's a great idea to move forward on the IVF cycle with your sis. And what a wonderful way to create your family - on your own for #1, and with your sis for #2. Amazing!
ReplyDeleteI am glad you are doing well and your sister is ok. I think you are smart to do this. It was so hard for you to get that good egg, and a second child is so worth it.
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