+1. I love Mr.Right. Well, of course I do. But, I especially love that he's so willing to 'take on' different aspects of our pregnancy (tangent: I remember very distinctly Mr.Right and I have a discussion about how we'd never be one of those couples who says, "we're pregnant" instead of "she's pregnant" or from me, "I"m pregnant" but we talk all the time now about "when we got pregnant" and "our pregnancy" and so on. It truly is something we've been going through together....which is the point of this point, I guess.). He suggested it might make most sense for him to call the MFM doctor who's been recommended to us by Dr.Dry to do the CVS testing. Since Mr.Right is the one with the fairly inflexible schedule (or at least one where patients have to be bumped in order to make it open enough for him to go to an appointment with me), it just makes more sense for him to be calling to schedule the appointment at a time that works best on his schedule. He also volunteered to call my OB. We decided we wanted her opinion on who to go to for the CVS as well. And since he's a referring doc (and she's a patient of his partner's) he'd be more likely to get her on the phone. We decided we should probably let her know that I'm pregnant again before we go for the CVS (even though she won't be doing the referring) since if I need a D&C based on the results of the CVS test, it will probably be my OB who has to do it. I know. That's not very 'hopeful' planning, but it's our reality.
+2. Just the fact that we're even talking about scheduling the CVS says there's a whole heck of a lot of hope in me that we'll even make it that far. A double-edged sword, for sure, but why not be hopeful? We know our problem is my crappy eggs, not carrying a pregnancy for at least 12 or 13 weeks. About the CVS....not so hopeful (but maybe that will change.)
+3. RESOLVE support group the other night was nice and buoyed the hope in me, but weird because, of course, I was the only one pregnant there, and, particularly pregnant with my own egg. They didn't kick me out though, which was nice :-) since we are continuing to pursue donor eggs in parallel. Lots of others struggling to get to the donor egg phase. I'm so incredibly, incredibly lucky to have my sister.
+4. Getting the psych test for my sister and the counseling meetings for all of us back on the schedule - for next Friday and the following Friday respectively.
+5. My hardcore commenters. Thanks for sticking with me. I feel like I've been neglecting my blog a bit. The 'measures of hope' posts aren't daily anymore and I really should be writing some other posts than just lists, but thanks anyhow for checking in on me.
Mike got a job and other updates
6 years ago
So I have nothing brilliant to say here (sometimes this happens to me when posting on pregnant blogs) but I wanted to let you know that I am pulling for you every step of the way. Thank you so much for your recent comments on my blog. I know we are part of the same crappy club (I so wish it wasn't true). when I learned of story, I had already gone through my saga with Baby H and I thought, oh no, as I knew what you in for sadly. I am always comforted by your presence and your comments especially b/c I know we are bonded in a way by this shared experience. Thank you for being there.
ReplyDeletewith that said, good luck with everything. here to hold your hand through the DE process and the cvs (yuck).
I am a newbie reader who is also 40 and fighting secondary infertility. I have my fingers and toes crossed that this pregnancy is "the one". But if this does not work out, I agree that you are incredibly lucky to have your sister. You will get your baby, one way or another. Good luck and keep us posted!
ReplyDeleteIt's good to hear this update from you and I'm glad you're doing well.
ReplyDeleteIt's interesting that you posted about the we're pregnant. DH and I always swore we would never say that but now, after all we've been through, it definitely feels like we're in this together.
I think it's good you find the right MFM for the CVS. I found that the one my OB recommended only did 15 or so a year, whereas after some research I found another dr in town did 150 year. Good luck, I hope it goes well. Crossing my fingers for you.
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing what husbands will do sometimes. They may not want to buy a box of tampons but they will make important phone calls and take on some major stuff a lot of the time. Go Mr. Right! Together you are stronger!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that there is hope - there SHOULD be. And, yes, reality/the past can't help but raise its ugly mug and put in its two cents. But so far so good. I'm glad you're at the point where you're considering CVS (and I'm glad you have the support of your RESOLVE group). Everything crossed for you.
ReplyDeleteLove that Mr. Right is totally stepping up - this is fantastic! I have so much hope for this pregnancy...
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