Measures of Hope | 25 February 2011

+1. Check! Donor egg counseling stuff done. I really do love my sister...and my brother-in-law. How could anyone have a cooler, more mature, more easygoing sister than me? Clearly, she knocked the socks off the counselor. We had a great session all together as well. The 4 of us had already talked quite a bit about every possible scenario we could think of so we were pretty prepared. Of course, the one scenario we didn't think of back on the evening of December 30 was: what if I have a child with my own eggs first? Since that's at least now somewhat more likely (pending the CVS test and results), that was one new wrinkle, but not a big one. My sister actually ended up saying that she thought if we did end up having this baby that I'm growing right now it would be a good way for her to establish an 'aunt' relationship first so she could then have an equal relationship with any baby that I would have that came from her eggs. I thought that was kind of interesting. My sister's thinking is to treat any baby I have with her eggs as just another niece or nephew. She wants to be very even and fair (we are both in agreement that our parents were notoriously fair with us....to the point of silliness sometimes, really, but that's a story for another time, and, in the end, I'm deeply grateful to them for their fairness. I think it gave my sister and me an incredibly sound footing for a very good relationship.) I think any child might always have a kind of 'special' relationship with my sister, which I think would be nice. But, regardless, I'm sure any or all of my children will feel the same way about their aunt as I do -she's so cool!

+2. Post-counseling-session lunch at our favorite Vietnamese restaurant in our old 'hood. Yum!

+3. Two weeks until CVS test and, with it, the next ultrasound. Gathering all the paperwork/records they've asked me to bring (my blood type, my genetic testing results, Mr.Right's genetic testing results (still pending from the Counsyl test he sent in), both of our karyotype results and the pathology report from our Trisomy 18 baby). I do still need to call them and ask about when I should stop taking the Lovenox (assuming 24 or 48 hours in advance). I think I will make it until then.