Well, despite the Thai food and wine (we never got to the Veuve, unfortunately) last night, it was still rough. I wish, wish, wish I could just say to Mr.Right, "I'm sad. I'm disappointed. I'm frustrated. I'm scared." But no, it wended it's way through the usual crap first ('why aren't you upset too?' 'why us?' 'why do we have such bad luck?') and the passive aggressiveness ('I don't want to cry right here because I know you'll get upset (me to him')). We ended up on the couch both crying. In the end, it was good and we came to some peace (so much so I started dozing off ;-) )
Even if you think of 100 positive or hopeful statements, there's just no getting past the being sad part. Mr.Right is working so hard, too. He's really taken to heart and is really trying to implement what our counsellor has been telling us: that we each grieve and express upset in different ways and at different times and we need to just let each other be with however we're going to each do that.
He looked pretty said still this morning. He was obviously feeling it more this morning for some reason than he was last night. Thank god today is Friday. At least he just needs to make it through today and then can sleep in tomorrow and recover.
Meanwhile, I *finally* got someone from LabCorp to acknowledge that I had requested my $3500 back (for PGD services which we weren't able to use). It is totally unacceptable that it's been over 2 weeks since the services were cancelled and they still haven't told me when to expect the reimbursement. The girl was all apologetic, but the fact is that it doesn't take this long to contact me to get my credit card info to make the reimbursement. The PGD lab and our clinic are separate entities, but I'm going to be lodging a complaint with our clinic about the PGD lab's unacceptable delay.
Thanks again to all of you for your supportive comments. They really do mean a lot to me.
Mike got a job and other updates
6 years ago
I'm think it's great that the two of you were able to talk through this. And that you are BOTH working so hard at helping each other and being there for each other. It would be lovely if we could give our spouses a script, and in turn receive a script from them as to what they need. Although that wouldn't work at all. I need hugs and comfort and love from my hubs and he needs me to leave him alone to process stuff...
ReplyDeleteI hope the two of you continue to work together to process this news and your change of plans. It sounds like you're definitely on the right track.
And that makes my blood curdle that you haven't received $3,500 back from the lab!
Remember that it's okay to be sad....continuing to send good thoughts your way.
ReplyDeleteYes, we all grieve differently, and you should be feeling what your feeling however it comes out.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry.
I am so sorry it was a rough nite for you and your dh! Take all the time you need to be sad... Sending lots of positive thoughts to you!
ReplyDeleteIt sounds so tough. I can't help but think though that the hard work you're both doing to reach each other will pay off for the rest of your lives.
ReplyDeleteI am really sorry you are in this place.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry it is time to consider next steps. It is a he'll of a transition, no matter how "ready" you think you are. Once it gets here, it feels like starting over in the acceptance process.
We need to stay in touch. I am sorry I fell away. I tend to get a little self absorbed.
If I can ever help, please let me know. I had a lot of questions I wanted to ask, but perhaps it is not as relevant since you are trying to see if your sister would donate. That is awesome. I am touched by what sisters are for each other.
She is something special and so are you. You will be a great momma again.